Four Stars for Easy Bribery

So in 1st grade they have this way of getting kids to behave. It's usually a star or sticker or whatever system where they start out with so many of said symbol and then throughout the day, they get "deductions" for bad behavior. Although, in my opinion, I think it enforces a fear tactic instead of my favored positive reinforcement and instills self confidence issues in most children- it seems to work for Aethan to some extent. Now don't get me wrong. Aethan couldn't give a crap about the actual stars themselves. They are an abstract to him. One thing about any kind of Autism Spectrum Disorder is the that abstract doesn't exist. So after hours of trying to explain to him "why" it was important not to talk during class assignments I finally resorted to good old fashioned reasoning...and bribery of course. It was simple..."Aethan, if you get four stars at school, you can play with my iphone on the way home from school and to school then next day." "OK, Mommy." So that simple. He hasn't had a 2 star day since. Here's the fact. He doesn't care why he should listen and follow instructions. He just need to know what the basic general reprocutions are. He has plenty of self control. He just doesn't use it unless HE finds it important. Simple right? I'm not even sure this has anything to do with ASD. I'm prety sure most 6 year olds are still stuck on "How does this effect me?" In fact, I think this exists in the male species until they are at least 30...maybe longer. So moms...don't assume your child doesn't know how to control himself. They know how. They just won't make a concious effort unless there is a reason valid to them.